Who's Way?

Husbands and wives are always quarreling over the fact that, "You always want your way!" and the reply is, "But you always want your way!"

How do we solve this impasse?

Maybe this story will help us in understanding the nature and needs of men and women.

Lord Shiva and Parvati, a celestial couple, living in the abode of Gods and Goddesses, were having a discussion one day. Parvati wanted to attend a puja at her father's home, even though she and her husband had not been invited to it. Lord Shiva explained to her that it was bad manners, to attend a function without an invitation, even though the function was in her father's home. "That home today is not your home," he said.

Parvati, a typical woman, willful and always wanting her own way, argued and insisted that they should go.

In the end, she decided that even if the husband did not go, she was going to attend the puja. Lord Shiva warned her there would be serious consequences to this visit of hers, but she insisted and departed.

With her went an escort of Shiva's disciples. When Parvati reached the puja, no one greeted her or spoke to her, she was given the cold shoulder, except for a lukewarm welcome from her mother. To her horror she discovered, there was not even a seat for her husband in the gathering of Gods and dignitaries.

No woman can bear her husband to be insulted in the father's home, so Parvati cursed her father and to teach the family a lesson, jumped into a sacrificial fire and died.

There was a commotion, a war, Lord Shiva had to intervene, Parvati's father had to pay the price, all because of the willfullness of a woman.

From this story, it is said and explains the nature of the woman who always likes to have her own way. But what about the husband?

The way to approach him is through his ego. Letting him know he is the hero in your life, he is the provider, his home is your shelter. You do not belong to your father and brother anymore, they are not your heroes. The husband agrees to everything the wife wants, the wife believes that her husband is the wisest man in the world, who loses, who wins? And the impasse is broken.

Since we have given advice to husband and wife, parents who choose a husband for their daughters and women who choose for a husband for themselves, please remember, that very often a girl wants a handsome man on her arm, so that he can be the envy of her friends. Please choose wisely.

Valentine's Day advice!